The cruel truth is that modern society is having a negative effect on our happiness. We live in an increasingly competitive, self-obsessed culture which encourages us to pursue wealth, appearance, status and possessions as a route to success. Yet, despite getting much richer as a society, we’re not actually getting happier.
In the pursuit of happiness, we tend to fall into the trap of running on the so-called hedonic treadmill — chasing after pleasures and external recognition that we believe will bring happiness, rather than finding more pleasure in the experiences they’re already having.
To lead a healthier life you have to start with a happier life. Here are 13 ways find happiness in today’s crazy world.
1. Create Your Own Happiness
True happiness is not based on the external circumstances. Find sources of positive energy from inside yourself.
2. Utilize Positive Thinking
If you think positively, it really helps. Your thoughts affect your actions in many ways. Positive affirmations can help.
3. Believe In Yourself
If you truly believe in yourself you can plow through whatever comes your way. Believing in yourself is the most important thing to staying positive.
4. Cut Off Negative People
It has been said that you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. Spend time with people who bring out the best in you. If you hang with people who are constantly naysaying, you will have a hard time removing the negativity from your life.
5. Exercise Can Make You Feel Great
If you want to feel good, you need to put your body on the right path. It’s easy to be negative if you don’t feel well. Exercise gets the endorphins flowing and can ensure your body is getting what it needs. Because working out raises serotonin levels in the brain, it’s the best way to feel amazing.
6. Spend Time In The Great Outdoors
Nature has a healing effect on the mind and body. People will tend to be more positive when they get plenty of fresh air. There are so many beautiful things on this planet to admire.
7. Don’t Overspend
Unhappy people often overspend trying to make themselves happy. It’s an unhealthy habit that many utilize to try to thwart the inner pain. It’s okay once in awhile to buy yourself something nice on a splurge, but making it a regular habit can cut finances short and make matters worse.
8. Embrace Failure and Move On
You can’t always win at everything you do. A positive person tends to use their failures as a way to learn and grow. If you fall down 100 times, as long as you get up 101 you’re doing okay. Failure can bring on a whole lot of negative emotions, but the positive learn how to see the good in every situation.
9. Learn To Own Your Mistakes
Taking responsibility for the bad that happens in your life is a way to own your mistakes. You need to take the heat for the bad and never play the blame game.
10. Make Time For Relaxation
Don’t expect yourself to be perfect. The optimistic person realizes that sometimes you have to slow down or loosen up your ambitions a bit. To avoid burn out, you may have to reduce your goals to ward off any unnecessary negative energy.
11. Find A Solution
Life can be hard and it can knock you down sometimes. Find a solution to the problem and don’t dwell on the failure. There are always obstacles to overcome. Positive people get up when knocked down and come back stronger and more determined.
12. Know When To Say No
People love to ask for favors, especially to those who are always willing to help out. Learning how to say “no” can save you a lot of stress. The word “no” gives you more power over your life and your time.
13. You Don’t Have to Seek Approval
You can never please all of the people all of the time. Just stay positive because the truth is you don’t need validation and learning to not seek approval can be really helpful in finding your own happiness.